Today, I am reminded of loss. Of grief. My community lost someone due to Covid this week, and it brought all of these feelings of loss – that so many of us are feeling – home.
“Grief is like the ocean; it comes on waves ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim.”
Grief is defined as deep sorrow. You may be feeling grief at the loss of a family member, a friend, a community member, a loved one, or you may be grieving the the loss of a career, loss of how things used to be, loss of your independence, loss of you community, loss of something else very specific to you. How do we get through these feelings of loss and sorrow? I found that I had a deep need to release. I did so following the steps and it helped me feel so much light afterwards. Here they are, so that you may try them also.
- Find a safe place. Before you begin, find a space to sit where you feel safe and won’t have to censor your emotions. Then, sit comfortably.
- Breathe. Start to notice your breath. Allow it to flow in and out of your body without controlling it. This may be the first time that you’ve allowed yourself to breathe in a long time, so take it slow. Just breathe.
- Hold your heart. Allow your breath to flow into your lungs and the area surrounding your heart. Your heart center. Place one or both hands on your heart and feel your chest rise and fall with your breath. Hold your brave, tender heart gently and with compassion.
- Notice your emotions. As you breath, allow yourself to notice what emotions come up. Notice them without judgement. Whatever they are, acknowledge that they are there.
- Feel. Give yourself permission to feel the emotions that come up. Take it slow, little by little. You may feel tears come. You may need to let out some sound. You may need to move your body. Allow yourself to do what feels natural. You don’t need to hold these emotions in any longer.
- Release. When we allow ourselves to feel our emotions, it makes it easier to let go. Allow your grief to be released through your brave, tender heart with compassion. You’ve honored your feelings, now visualize yourself letting them go.
- Nourish. Letting go can be exhausting and uplifting. You’ve just done a lot of work. Nourish yourself. Drink some water, make yourself your favorite meal, go for a walk, or just rest. Take the time to take care of yourself.
Like the quote above states, grief comes in waves. If you notice that you are feeling sorrow again, treat yourself kindly and with compassion. Breathe. Accept yourself as you are right now, without judgement, and just take it moment by moment. Healing takes time.
May you have peace within,