Do you tend to think about what’s wrong? What’s wrong with yourself? What’s wrong with another person? What’s wrong with a relationship? What’s wrong with a situation? What’s wrong with an object? What’s wrong with a place? The list can go on…
It’s easy to go down that rabbit hole of thinking about what’s wrong. When that happens, our happiness level can tank, our self-esteem can go out the window, and our motivation can dry up.
When we focus on what is wrong, we often forget that we are resilient!
Yes, we can bounce back. We can overcome things. We can handle changes.
So, it’s time for a little mental shift.
It’s time to start thinking about what is right.
Right now, think about three things that are going right for you. They can be really simple. You got up this morning, you put on clothes, you fed yourself. Then, maybe once you find those items, you can move onto something bigger.
When we focus on what’s going right, we flex our resiliency muscles.
When I was going through my Yoga for Trauma training, my teacher, Lisa Danylchuk, explained this idea of “focusing on what’s right” to me. I was blown away. It seemed so easy, yet at the same time so HARD.
I remember talking to a client about adding in yoga and movement into her day, and the immediate response was, “I can’t do yoga, I’m not flexible.” She was seeing what was WRONG with herself before even thinking about what she could do right. She was comparing herself to her idea of what yoga people can do and could only see her own inadequacy. However, I pointed out that she can move her body, to her body’s best ability, and that we could focus on what was right for her. We incorporated grounding and relaxation and breathwork along with the movement, and by the end of her session she was completely relaxed and told me that she felt so much better about herself and her future, as she was going through a major life change. She felt empowered because the whole session we were focused on what was going right for her.
How about you? What mind shifts can you make in your every day to help remind yourself about what is going right for you?
If you find yourself dwelling on what’s going wrong, take a breath and pause. Start small. Find just three small things that are going right. Then, see if you can think of another one, then another one, and keep going.
MIND SHIFT
Next, see how you are feeling. Notice the difference in your outlook and your own happiness and self-confidence just from thinking about what is going right for you.
May you have peace within,
Julia
